The idea that you can still be friends with a woman you used to date might sound really practical in theory,  but I have to say that in practice,  most guys seem to find that it is not very practical at all.  Trying to remain friends with an ex girlfriend is not an easy thing to do.  You have to try and navigate from being her boyfriend to being just a guy that she happens to be friendly with.  There might be a lot of "advice" out there that says it is good to try and remain friends with an ex girlfriend,  but that doesn't mean that it is true.

Here are some reasons why you shouldn't try to remain friends with an ex girlfriend:

1.  Friends talk about their love life,  can you do that with your ex girlfriend?


The fact is,  you probably cannot talk about dating and romance with your ex girlfriend if the conversation happens to be about another guy.  Think about how weird it would be to hear your ex girlfriend tell you that she thinks a certain guy is cute and that she is hoping that she ends up dating him.  Do you really think that this is going to be something that you can deal with?  I doubt it.

2.  You are going to be intentionally placing yourself in the friend zone with her.

Most of the time,  getting stuck in the friend zone is the LAST thing that you want to do.  Well,  guess what?  If you try to remain friends with your ex girlfriend -  you are going to be the one that puts yourself in the friend zone.  That's not an easy thing to get out of.  Well,  why do that to yourself?  Why be the guy who naively outs himself in the friend zone if you don't have to?

3.  Being friends is NOT the way to win her back.

The real reason why most guys try to remain friends with an ex girlfriend is because they want her back.  You can tell yourself that this is not really true,  but you know that it is.  While you might think that this is a good way to make your ex girlfriend want you back,  it's really NOT.  There are much better and much more effective ways to get back with your ex girlfriend that don't require you to try to be something that you don't want to be.  Don't lie to yourself and say that you just want to be her friend when you know that you really want to be her boyfriend again.

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    Keeping your girlfriend happy while she is still with you is much easier than trying to win her back after she has already dumped you.  Read through this site and this blog to get advice on how to make your girlfriend and if the day comes when she does break up with you,  how to get your ex girlfriend back.

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